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Description: Hosts Sharon Haver & Brad Boles talk with Jill Zarin about the meaning of friendship, fame, matchmaking, love, family, and of course, “The Secrets Of A Jewish Mother,” from Jill’s new book.
Aired: 7/23/2010 3:00 PM UTC
Length: 30 minutes
Host: Focus On Style Talk
[Start of Transcript]
[Narrator]
0:01: Blog Talk Radio.
[Sharon Haver]
0:05: Hello, and good morning everybody. This is Sharon Haver from FocusOnStyle.com We’re here this morning with Brad Boles, who is our —
Secrets of a Jewish Mother
[Jill Zarin]
0:15: I’m here.
[Sharon Haver]
0:17: Oh, and we have Jill! Jill Zarin is on the line. We’ve got —
[Brad Boles]
0:20: Wow. And I’m Brad, hey.
[Jill Zarin]
0:23: Brad, I’m always on time honey.
[Brad Boles]
0:26: That’s true, Jill’s always on time. And it’s very glamorous. I’m, of course, in the glamorous Hamptons right now. Jill, you’re obviously in the glamorous New York City. And where are you Sharon?
[Sharon Haver]
0:36: I am in New York City, too.
[Brad Boles]
0:38: Oh, you’re in that fabulous downtown loft.
[Sharon Haver]
0:41: Yeah, so you know what Brad?
[Jill Zarin]
0:42: I do want to move. I want a loft.
[Sharon Haver]
0:45: Brad, you’re going to be in trouble. You have two Jewesses, both in New York City, and you’re out in the Hamptons.
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[Brad Boles]
Special Guest Jill Zarin of “Thehe Real Housewives of New York City” and co-author of “Secrets of a Jewish Mother”
0:51: I know.
[Sharon Haver]
0:52: The resident goy out of our area code today.
[Brad Boles]
0:57: So what does that make me? If I’m Jill’s gay husband, and I’m a shagitz. What am I called?
[Sharon Haver]
1:04: A fegela?
[Brad Boles]
1:04: What is it?
[Jill Zarin]
1:05: Fegela.
[Sharon Haver]
1:07: A fegela.
[Brad Boles]
1:07: No, no, no. If you’re a woman and you’re not Jewish, and you’re dating a Jewish man — what is that?
[Jill Zarin]
1:14: Shiksa.
[Brad Boles]
1:15: That’s a shiksa.
[Jill Zarin]
1:16: A shiksa is a non-Jewish girl, but —
[Brad Boles]
1:18: But there’s also a version for the man.
[Sharon Haver]
1:22: Yeah, that’s my husband.
[Jill Zarin]
1:22: Gay husband. I don’t know what else there is.
[Sharon Haver]
1:25: The shagitz. You’re the fegela shagitz. Now the person who’s doing this transcript is really going to have a run for his or her money today with all of this.
[Jill Zarin]
1:33: Well you know what, she can buy my book, Secrets of a Jewish Mother. There’s a Yiddish glossary in the back.
1:37: [LAUGHTER]
[Brad Boles]
1:38: I love it.
[Jill Zarin]
1:39: She doesn’t have to buy it —
[Sharon Haver]
1:40: But Jill, isn’t Yiddish great? I had a friend who used to call Yiddish the language of love, because you have to get all that uch uch uch in it. There’s just so many fabulous words in there. So they should get your book, Secrets of a Jewish Mother, just for the Yiddish glossary in the back.
1:57: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
[Brad Boles]
1:58: Well, you know I loved — and Jill knows this — I loved the book so much, and it had nothing to do with Jill. I actually —
[Jill Zarin]
2:05: Brad actually was one of the first. And he’s not my target audience, the target audience is clearly women. And not Jewish women, any women. We have our philosophy’s called Jewish mother, but everyone has the– on everyone. But people know what a Jewish mother means, and it’s just sort of a meaning.
[Sharon Haver]
2:20: Yeah, well it’s culture not religion.
[Jill Zarin]
2:22: He’s not my target audience. He’s not looking to get married — he is married. He’s not looking for someone. But he was one of the first people to read the book, and really read it.
[Brad Boles]
2:31: I actually —
[Jill Zarin]
2:32: I’ve given the book to people, but not everyone’s going to read them. My friend just gave me her book — Heather McDonald — great book. By the way, you should interview her. You’ll Never Blue Ball in this Town Again. Well, she wrote this great book that she was a virgin until she was like 27, and her escapades in Hollywood trying to be famous being a virgin. And she’s a comedian, so it’s so funny I actually read the entire book. I want you to know that Heather.
[Brad Boles]
2:52: That’s wonderful.
[Sharon Haver]
2:53: She’s hysterical. I love Chelsea Lately.
2:55: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
[Brad Boles]
2:58: Sharon, I know that when you were going through the book you had some questions. And I know that one of the questions that you were having was Jill’s take on friendship, its power and how important it is to her.
[Sharon Haver]
3:11: Yeah, well one of the things I wanted to know is — and it’s also besides the book, and besides Jewish not being a religion but being a sort of a cultural bond between people, the tribe, or whatever. But also on the show as well, because on the Real Housewives it’s kind of based — supposedly based on friendship. But from you, what is your personal take on what it really means to be a good friend, what it means to have that bond? And do you need to have the friend in your life at all times to still be a friend? Or do people kind of come and go out of your life, for good or for bad? And just generally, what makes a friend to you and why?
[Jill Zarin]
3:50: I really describe it in the book. A good friend of mine Emilia, who actually was in the Hamptons, explained it to me. She sent me this email about front row friends. And what it said was that your life is an audience, and you have front row friends, friends in the orchestra, friends in the mezzanine, and friends sometimes in the last row. I always think of it as Radio City, because I have a lot of friends in the back, back top 4th tier, and people move around. And it really depends on where you are in your life. Like when you have small children and you know that you’re a mom, you tend to attract the people who have small children. Because you want good things for your kids, you want to go on vacation with people who have children of the same age.
4:31: So let’s say you come out of college and you’re bff and very, very close with your single friends from college, as each one gets picked off and gets married they then move to the married group. And if you’re still single you stay with your single friends. When you get picked off and become married you get closer to them. As each one of them has children, they get picked off and go into the kids or small children group. And then if that happens for you, you know you’re blessed, then you sometimes move back to that group. Or if you get divorced you might go back to the single friends you had from college who might still be single.
5:03: So I think that history means a lot. I think that we all accept, maybe I’ll call it bad behavior, from friends because we have a history. We all have friends who’ve done things to us that we were upset about, and this and that. And time does heal all wounds. But if you have — like I have a particular friend that I’m thinking of, who moved away from me. We were friends, we were so close we were like sisters and then she moved across the country and we sort of lost touch. We’d seen each other, and then we didn’t speak for a year, and then I would go to visit and we’d get close again. And then of course the distance kept us apart. And I’ve been trying to get in contact with her lately, I’m not sure why she’s not reaching back. But I don’t give up because of the history.
[Brad Boles]
5:48: That’s interesting. That’s interesting. So essentially a friendship is to you, it sounds to me, almost like a marriage. A great friendship.
[Jill Zarin]
6:02: A great friendship is definitely like a marriage, or really a marriage should be a friendship.
[Brad Boles]
6:08: Yeah.
[Jill Zarin]
6:08: It’s the opposite.
[Sharon Haver]
6:09: Good point. So the friendship is going to be the bond that keeps you together. The lust is going to fade, and come in and out, but this friend is who you want with you.
[Jill Zarin]
6:17: Exactly.
[Brad Boles]
6:19: Now also to one of the things — because I love it and this is like the Jillisms that I love — can you share with us some of your favorite golden rules of friendship and how they shape our lives?
[Jill Zarin]
6:30: Be there. I think the biggest one is to be there. Apologize when wrong. Write that one down Brad.
[Brad Boles]
6:37: I know. I know, it seems like I’m forever apologizing to you.
[Jill Zarin]
6:43: Brad will never admit he’s wrong. If I’m wrong, I say I’m sorry. He knows that.
[Brad Boles]
6:47: That’s true, but I do apologize to you and tell you how much I love you. That’s not true.
[Sharon Haver]
6:52: And Brad is not evil, actually Brad means well. Brad means well. Sometimes he oversteps, but he means well. He just needs to kind of get into — you know.
[Jill Zarin]
7:03: I just want the audience to know Sharon has a history with Brad. How many years do you know him?
[Brad Boles]
7:08: Oh my goodness.
[Sharon Haver]
7:09: But it’s the same thing. Brad and I met —
7:12: Exactly. Friends come in and out of your —
7:13: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
[Sharon Haver]
7:15: You know, my mom used to tell me you have friends for different purposes. It’s kind of what you said, but in a different word. And it’s true, I met Brad when I first became a stylist. I had a friend who was a model, and she says — “Hey, you know I have this friend who’s doing all these covers for Vogue Mexico and they’re looking for a stylist. And he’s a makeup artist.” And I met Brad that way, and we instantly clicked. We ended up having a very long career together being booked as a team, where I was the stylist and Brad was makeup. And we had a friend North Rebis, who’s no longer with us, who did hair. And we bonded so well that people would just sort of hire us as this unit, and we became very good friends through the days before you knew Brad when he thought he was boy Brad and had his wigs and glitter glam.
8:00: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
[Jill Zarin]
8:01: Brad, you had quite a —
[Brad Boles]
8:04: You know what, I’ll show you. I actually have beautiful photographs. But more importantly —
8:07: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
[Sharon Haver]
8:09: Jill, I can really spill the beans on that one.
[Brad Boles]
8:12: I was —
[Sharon Haver]
8:14: Wait, wait, wait. Do you notice how Brad is trying to cut me off?
[Jill Zarin]
8:18: [INAUDIBLE] wig?
[Brad Boles] 8:20: Oh yeah, I had a lot of them. I’ll show you the photos, I was a real character. But speaking of really important characters, I want to talk about —
[Sharon Haver]
8:27: Wait, wait, wait. Brad, slow down. The one thing I want to say is, and through all of this — this goes back to Jill’s point — through all of that Brad and I were very close. We ended up sort of losing touch at a certain point, because he was working and traveling a lot and he wasn’t in New York. And then I ended up eventually meeting my husband and getting married. You just kind of lose touch with certain friends, and not because it’s on purpose. It’s just kind of the way the tide goes. And now we’re friends again, and that’s exactly what Jill was saying.
[Brad Boles]
9:00: Well, it’s interesting. I love a great friendship where you can not see each other for four or five years, and when you see each other you can pick up right where you left off.
[Sharon Haver]
9:08: Exactly.
[Brad Boles]
9:09: Now, let’s talk about my favorite character in Jill’s life. This is somebody that’s incredibly special to me that I love. And I want to ask you Jill, Aunt Cookie. Now I love her, she’s one of the most amazing people on the planet. Why was she such a defining marker in your life?
[Jill Zarin]
9:28: Aunt Cookie’s just always been there for everything, every occasion — good, bad, indifferent. My Aunt Cookie has never forgotten a birthday, an anniversary.
[Sharon Haver]
9:39: Wow.
[Jill Zarin]
9:39: She is the most thoughtful person — I’m not kidding. Every year, every birthday I get a card. Every year, every anniversary I get a card. Bobby now is part of the family, he does. Allyson does. And she calls. I can always count to the day — whatever — 6 o’clock in the morning always wakes us up. We’re like — “Uh oh, better not go to sleep tonight. Aunt Cookie’s calling at 6:00 in the morning.” If she didn’t call, I don’t even know what I would do. And unfortunately my Aunt Cookie isn’t feeling well right now, so I just hope everything is OK with her. She’s gone to the doctor —
[Brad Boles]
10:08: Aww. Well we love her. And she is —
[Jill Zarin]
10:12: Doctor Haver.
[Brad Boles]
10:13: You know what I love about Aunt Cookie, she always has only nice things to say about people. And she is always in a great mood. She’s just the cutest thing ever.
10:24: Sharon, I know you wanted to talk to Jill about if love is better the second time around.
[Sharon Haver]
10:29: Yeah, so what is that? This is my first marriage, it’s my husband’s second. And obviously I hope for him it’s better the second time around. And Brad was telling me a bit about you — I hope, I mean I’ve lasted a lot longer — about you and Bobby. So what do you think about that? Is the second time better because it’s a learning experience, because you’re a little older or a little wiser? What’s your take on all of that?
[Jill Zarin]
10:53: I think second time around for me was better, obviously. But it isn’t for everybody. You hope it is.
11:00: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
[Brad Boles]
11:02: Do you think most women could be as lucky as you, though? Because I’m a witness to it, you and Bobby and I have traveled the world together. He is the most amazing man in the world [INAUDIBLE].
[Jill Zarin]
11:15: I’m losing you. Hello?
[Sharon Haver]
11:17: Brad, you’re breaking up.
[Brad Boles]
11:20: Bobby’s always there for you. And it’s true, it’s not just what people see on television. I’m a witness to it all the time. You hang out with probably one of the most amazing cats in the world.
[Jill Zarin]
11:33: I know. Shh, don’t tell anybody. Stop.
11:35: [LAUGHTER]
[Sharon Haver]
11:38: So Jill, what now —
[Jill Zarin]
11:40: And Bobby’s so cute because he really is so naive about like Facebook, Twitter, and social media. He doesn’t twitter —
[Sharon Haver]
11:46: But that’s good, isn’t it?
[Jill Zarin]
11:46: — and he has a facebook. Well, he said to me last week. He says — “Do you think I should be twittering?” And I said — “Are you’re kidding me? What are you going to change now? Not for your life.”
11:56: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
11:58: Because it’s not who he is. But he does have a Facebook page. He randomly checks it, like once every six or eight weeks. All love, all support, and lots of hot women who send him their websites.
[Brad Boles] 12:10: Oh, I know. I’ve been there. We go out to parties.
[Jill Zarin] 12:13: Oh yeah, and he’ll be very cute with me. He’ll be like — “You know, this lady told me that she’s getting divorced and she needs advice.” I’m like — “Bobby, let her go to a therapist. She doesn’t need my husband. Thank you very much.”
[Brad Boles] 12:26: Now I’ve got a question here [INAUDIBLE].
[Sharon Haver] 12:31: Brad, we’re losing you.
[Jill Zarin] 12:33: Brad, where are you? Are you in the car?
[Brad Boles] 12:35: No, I’m in the Hamptons. You know my boy [INAUDIBLE].
[Sharon Haver] 12:40: We’re losing you. Are you moving?
[Brad Boles] 12:42: No, I’m not. [INAUDIBLE] Hello?
[Sharon Haver] 12:45: Go to a window.
12:46: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
[Jill Zarin] 12:51: He can’t sit still.
[Sharon Haver] 12:52: And he can’t stop over-talking.
[Brad Boles] 12:54: Hold on. So you know my boy Rob Siegel, who loves you Jill, and he was going to come on the line today but he’s working right now. And he has a question for you. It says — “Jill, what can a 30-something Jewish guy learn from your book? And more importantly, what can his 70 year old Jewish mother learn from it, or is it too late for her?
[Jill Zarin] 13:15: Is she single? Sorry, I’m shoving food down my throat. Is she single?
[Brad Boles] 13:19: I don’t know, I don’t think she’s single.
[Jill Zarin] 13:24: I think that really for her the book would be more humor, because I think she’s certainly experienced a lot of what we talk about in the book — about marriage, about relationships, about dating. It’s almost like a [INAUDIBLE] because a lot of this stuff, it’s not brain surgery. A lot of it’s very common sense, you know that Brad. The book is very common sense, but about the things that you may have forgotten. So I think that as his mother is going to advise him and any other children or grandchildren that she has, it’ll give her some tools to give advice. So she’ll have the list on what to look for in a husband — she’ll have the list — and what not to. Some of them she’ll know automatically, and some of the list will be like — “Oh, I didn’t think of that one. That’s a good one, too.” So she’ll have a list available to give her own advice. For her it would be like a book for her to be prepared to give advice, to remind her of all the things I’m sure she knows.
14:15: Now for Rob, on the other hand, who’s single and very handsome I think there’s a lot he could get out of the book actually. Not just so much about the dating, which is important, but marriage. Five minutes of understanding we talk about. We think it’s really important for you to have this kind of secret rule that if either one of you are really upset with each other, or if you’re not talking or having a fight or about to have a fight, you give yourself a timeout and go — “I need five minutes of understanding. Put the weapons down, we have to talk.”
14:43: That’s one, and then there’s a lot more than that. But also on parenting. Because he will get married, hopefully, and he’ll have children. And we have the most amazing tips on parenting. Things —
[Brad Boles] 14:53: Yes, that’s true.
[Jill Zarin] 14:54: — which my mother taught me and did with me, and I do with Allyson — although not always successfully, because she does throw me out. But to sit on the bed and try to talk to your children, especially when they’re young, and not get up when they don’t want you there. And to just sit, eavesdrop, and listen. And all the things that I think made Lisa and who I am today were because of my mother and my Aunt Cookie.
[Brad Boles] 15:17: You know, that’s very true. The whole relationship section of the book is so amazing to me. That’s the biggest comments that I’ve gotten when I sent the book out to my friends, was what solid advice it was and how it translates across the board for anybody.
15:30: But my question to you is, what is your — the listeners — what is your– back in the day when you were dating, what was your biggest dating nightmare?
[Jill Zarin] 15:42: Oh. Dating nightmare? You know, it’s so funny because I thought I dated too much. Like we’re the same age, we grew up very fast. You were Boy George at 13 and moved out of your house — or 14 — but I also —
[Sharon Haver] 16:01: Hopefully you weren’t.
[Jill Zarin] 16:03: No, but I was bad. I was bad.
[Sharon Haver] 16:06: [UNINTELLIGIBLE]
[Jill Zarin] 16:07: I was lying to my parents and saying I’m going to my friend’s to study, and I would be going to 147 or Cartoon’s, these local discos in town, with boys way too old for me to be with. And dated dated dated from the age of, let’s say, 15 to 21, that by the time I hit 21 I’m like — “OK, I’ve dated enough. I want to get married.” And that was my mistake, is that I got married too young. I picked a great guy, I got the right guy. The problem was I wasn’t really in love with him passionately, I was really marrying my best friend. And I was settling because I was scared to be alone. I don’t know why I had this fear that — “Oh my god, I’m 22. I have to get married, I’m done.” And today it’s very different. I wouldn’t encourage Allyson to settle down so young.
[Brad Boles] 16:52: You know it’s interesting Sharon, you had also asked me earlier that you were fascinated by the dynamic of Jill and Ally’s relationship, obviously since you have [INAUDIBLE] yourself.
[Sharon Haver] 17:03: Yeah. Backtracking a little bit. So many women out there have — it’s not easy finding a boyfriend, a fiance, a husband, a mate of any kind. And one of the things that you touch upon, which is one of my favorite Jewish words, is you talk about matchmaking. And matchmaking in Yiddish is called the shidduch, which is not with two t’s it’s with two d’s. To help everyone else, it’s an s, h, i, d, d, u, c, h. So in making a shidduch, you’re supposedly — I never know, what is the person who does it called, the queen of the shidduch? What do you think it takes to match — if you have a friend, and you think they’d be great with another friend. Or how do you kind of like network your friends into romance?
[Jill Zarin] 17:50: Well, I do it all the time. In fact, I just met another one with Brad. Remember the other night, that handsome man at your friend’s house?
[Brad Boles] 17:57: Jill’s the most amazing connector, she’s off the charts.
[Jill Zarin] 18:00: No, but I’ve been thinking about who I could fix him up with, and I really should go through my rolodex. But you know, it’s just luck. But the best relationships really are through fix-ups, I think.
18:09: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
18:10: After college, because you know it’s hard when you’re working in a job to meet people. What are you going to do, go to a bar that’s noisy or a disco that’s noisy? How do you meet someone? You have to rely on your network.
[Sharon Haver] 18:22: And what do you think of people who do online dating now? I know so many people who do it, I’m like thank God I’m not single now —
[Jill Zarin] 18:28: I would do it.
[Sharon Haver] 18:28: — because I think I’d freaked out by the whole idea. You do? I think I’d be freaked out by it.
[Jill Zarin] 18:31: It’s a total candy store. I think I’d have a great time at it actually. My stepson met his wife on JDate. And my niece, who just by the way is pregnant with twins — my cousin, my first cousin, she met her husband on JDate. JDate’s an interesting [INAUDIBLE]. They’re a great matchmaking site.
[Brad Boles] 18:50: But you even say in the book, you say cast the net as wide as possible. That’s what you’re saying basically, cast the net wide.
[Jill Zarin] 18:58: Everything. Everything and everyone. If I were single — God forbid, pooh pooh a million times — I’d be asking every single person that I know to fix me up. And I wouldn’t stop — like I’d call again and again. So like probably once a week I would be calling you and Brad up. Because you know what happens, you forget. Because yes, today I’m thinking about that person but tomorrow I may not be. And tomorrow I might meet the girl that would have been perfect for him, and I forgot about him. So you want to keep on the top of people’s minds that you’re looking, you’re looking, you’re looking. And people will work for you, they want to. It’s in people’s nature to help people.
[Brad Boles] 19:31: It’s very true.
[Sharon Haver] 19:31: No, I agree.
[Jill Zarin] 19:32: I think people are generally good-natured and want to help other people.
[Sharon Haver] 19:37: The other thing people have to do is that — I know a lot of my single girlfriends — they kind of have, you know, there’s the guys you have fun with, and there’s the guys. It’s like you have friends for different purposes, well you kind of have relationships for different purposes too, I believe. And I think that they need to somehow get in their head — “Well I want to get married, and not see some guy who maybe is fun to go to the movies with, or fun to go away with for the weekend. And then sort of plant the idea that he’s the one on him.” And just let relationships sort of open up. And when you are looking for the one, just be receptive to whatever is out there rather than just putting that on some guy and saying he has to be that guy. And then you’re disappointed and it’s over. So I think people just need to open up their minds and understand that people come in and out of your life for different reasons.
[Jill Zarin] 20:26: Right.
[Brad Boles] 20:26: That’s very true. One of the things that I want to touch on, though, which is very, very interesting is that long before Bobby came along — and a lot of people don’t know this, because they see the show and see like [INAUDIBLE] and the arguments. But one of the most amazing things that people don’t know about Jill — and I’m a witness to it because we’ve been in business together, and we’ve done amazing things — is Jill had the most amazing, successful career before Bobby. She’s so brilliant when she comes up with ideas and concepts. I know that you’ve developed an amazing bedding line that’s coming out in the fall. I’ve seen it, it’s absolutely gorgeous. How did that happen?
[Jill Zarin] 21:06: Well, it’s a dream of mine to design my own line — always. I love fabric, that’s one of the reasons I went to work for Bobby. Because you know me, how frustrated I am. I’m not a decorator, and I never put myself out there as one, but I do love to try. And I love to experiment with fabrics, and I love to make bedding. Bedding is my passion. And so when the show came on air, it gave me a platform of people who think that they like how I dress, or they like my taste. So I was able to link up with an amazing company — manufacturer — to actually make the bedding for us. And we’re really excited that I designed this line.
21:43: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
21:45: To me, it’s always about the pillows. You and I know that, right? And the prices. If I made these in the store using the fabrics in the warehouse — and one particular bed I’m thinking that I made — for the math, it would cost like $3,000.
[Brad Boles] 21:58: Oh, by the way. Are you and Sharon —
[Jill Zarin] 22:00: It’s only $200 for the entire set. It’s amazing.
[Brad Boles] 22:04: It is, the price points are amazing. But you and Sharon share a common link. You know, she buys all of her fabrics in your store, in Zarin Fabrics.
[Sharon Haver] 22:11: Jill, you don’t realize that I sleep with you and Bobby every night.
[Jill Zarin] 22:15: Ooh.
22:17: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
22:19: By the way, when that transcriber transcribes that sentence, that will be on the head of one of these huge websites.
22:27: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
[Sharon Haver] 22:29: Let me explain, because we have one of those —
22:32: [LAUGHTER]
22:32: Let me explain. We have one of those Ligne —
[Jill Zarin] 22:34: Hold on. What was your last name again?
22:37: [LAUGHTER]
22:38: Is it [UNINTELLIGIBLE]
[Sharon Haver] 22:41: No, but anyway let me explain. We have one of those Ligne Roset beds. It has like a rim around it, and it was ultrasuede. And when my son was little, God knows, it ended up getting formula and it ended up getting a little fakakt, as they say. So we needed to redo the whole —
[Jill Zarin] 22:58: It must have had a little schmutz on it.
[Sharon Haver] 22:59: It was very schmutz. But schmutz is removable dirt, this was kind of embedded. It was like [UNINTELLIGIBLE] schmutz. So we ended up bringing the bed to Zarin, and you and Zarin Fabrics redid the ultrasuede on it and on all the upholstery.
[Brad Boles] 23:14: It’s gorgeous.
[Sharon Haver] 23:14: And did a lovely job.
[Jill Zarin] 23:17: We’re definitely a friend to many New Yorkers, and now worldwide the show has really helped Zarin get on a worldwide platform. And we ship all over the world, and we have the best prices imaginable — I think you know that. We used to call that the store, like Zarin Fabric Warehouse, and that gave you the image that it was at a discount. And then we changed it. When the economy was really good, we tried to go a little upscale and called it Zarin Fabrics and Home Furnishings. And I go back and forth with Bobby, should we go back to Zarin Fabric Warehouse? Because the truth is, we’re not even getting the credit for giving the prices that we get. People are surprised, people don’t expect it. So they’ll come to us because of the show, let’s say for example, and they’ll source — I’ll just use the most extreme — silk mohair fabric, and that’s $300 a yard — if not more, right — at the D&D Building, Brad?
[Brad Boles] 24:10: Yeah, absolutely.
[Jill Zarin] 24:10: You know what I’m talking about, I have a —
[Brad Boles] 24:13: Yeah, it’s from Belgium. It’s velvet mohair.
[Jill Zarin] 24:17: Velvet mohair. We sell it for between $65 and $90 a yard. Now mind you —
[Sharon Haver] 24:24: And Jill, you know why I did get my bed reupholstered at Zarin. It’s because, yes, my husband said he doesn’t think I’d ever buy anything retail in my life. Because I shopped around to get that kind of new buck ultrasuede at the best price and the same quality. And you were top on the list.
[Jill Zarin] 24:41: Right, I’m not lying that our price —
[Sharon Haver] 24:42: It wasn’t by accident. No, no, no, no, no.
[Jill Zarin] 24:44: I feel like that guy on TV — our prices are insane! What was he called? Crazy Eddie.
[Sharon Haver] 24:49: The Crazy Eddie of fabric.
[Jill Zarin] 24:52: Yeah, I’m crazy Jill — our prices are insane!
[Brad Boles] 24:56: So talking about Zarin Fabrics, which is located on the Lower East Side by the way, for any of you listeners. It’s amazing. One of the interesting things that happened is that in all of my time being there, and working with the decorating business with Jill out of Zarin, is there happens to be a tour bus stoplight in front of her store. And the first season that it aired, all of a sudden I would be in the store — and Jill comes in and out because she’s very, very busy, and so she’ll come in a couple days a week — but I would be in the store, and all of these fans would get off the bus and come into the store in groups of 20, 30, and 40 women. And my question to you Jill is, how has the show impacted your marriage?
[Jill Zarin] 25:40: It hasn’t in a negative way at all. I think my marriage is as good as it was before the show started. I think it put a lot of stress on me, and therefore that’s sort of a byproduct on Bobby, which is one of the reasons why I may not want to come back next season. I’m not really sure what I’m doing yet, because it’s really been very stressful for me. And that falls on my wonderful husband, because he has to deal with me. But we’re great. We have a great — I’m very lucky.
[Brad Boles] 26:08: Yeah, you are very lucky.
[Jill Zarin] 26:09: And I’m not looking to jeopardize it.
[Brad Boles] 26:10: Well, and also I think — and Sharon knows this — it was extremely difficult for me to watch Season 3, because it was just far too painful because I know you, and I know what was going down is not the person that I know or any of us know. The cameras can do that, editing can do that. You guys have no control over the way anything is edited. And I think that —
[Sharon Haver] 26:33: But that’s an interesting point. We have three minutes left. So Jill, why don’t we ask you whatever you want to talk about in the final three minutes here. And we should do this again soon. And if you want to talk about the show and what happened, or whatever you — it’s open call for Jill.
[Jill Zarin] 26:51: I just want to say thank you to all the fans, and Twitter followers and Facebook fans who twitter me, email me, and contact me all the time. I try to reach back to as many as I can. And I love you for it. If it wasn’t for the show I wouldn’t have met so many amazing people. And I really love my life. And it’s really thanks to Bravo for giving me this amazing platform. You know it’s a one in a million. It’s the lottery. Me being on television. Getting on television, being on a successful show, going into syndication, being in 60 countries. I couldn’t thank Bravo enough for what they’ve done for me. But you know, sometimes the party’s over. And I’m not sure if I’m ready to go back into it again. So we’ll see. I have a lot of great projects on. I’m not going away, I have a lot of great projects that I’m working on.
[Brad Boles] 27:38: Oh, absolutely. Absolutely you do.
27:40: Well, I think that was a great conversation with Jill Zarin. And you can also check out her website, jillzarin.com. It’s absolutely amazing. And you do update that all the time, and there’s lots of great photos. It’s actually an amazing, amazing website. It was beautifully designed.
[Jill Zarin] 27:58: Yeah, I have to update it. But yeah, I’m always loading it with new stuff. So check it out.
[Brad Boles] 28:02: There’s great gossip on there, just about friends and things.
[Jill Zarin] 28:03: Thanks honey.
[Brad Boles] 28:04: All right darling. Thanks, and I will see you soon.
[Sharon Haver] 28:08: And thank you so much Jill. And whenever you want to come back, you’re always welcome.
[Jill Zarin] 28:13: You’re a doll.
[Sharon Haver] 28:14: Yeah, so are you.
[Jill Zarin] 28:14: Thank you. OK.
[Sharon Haver] 28:16: Thank you, we love you.
[Jill Zarin] 28:17: Bye, have a great weekend.
[Brad Boles] 28:19: Bye.
[Sharon Haver] 28:20: Bye.
28:20: Brad, are you still on the line?
[Brad Boles] 28:22: I’m still on the line.
[Sharon Haver] 28:23: OK. So we have a few more minutes now. And tell me — we’ve wrapped it up — if there’s anything you think the viewers need to know about anything else this week. Or how would you like to wrap it up?
[Brad Boles] 28:38: Check out my column this week on FocusOnStyle.com The last weekend was — Yep, that was a whirlwind. And I have this weekend promised it to even be more of a whirlwind. It is jam-packed. We have the Mercedes Polo out here this weekend, so it’s going to be celebrity packed. And next weekend on July 31, your very own Sharon Haver will be joining me in the Hamptons for Super Saturday. And we’re actually going to film that, and that’s going to end up going on FocusOnStyle.com the following week.
[Sharon Haver] 29:11: Brad is dragging me out, kicking and screaming, next weekend to the Hamptons if it kills me.
[Brad Boles] 29:16: You told me you like a bargain, and it’s for a good cause.
[Sharon Haver] 29:19: I do like a bargain, I do. But it’s a week before I leave for Jackson Hole. So it’s like the craziest — you know.
[Brad Boles] 29:26: Well, you know what?
[Sharon Haver] 29:27: What?
[Brad Boles] 29:28: You’re probably going to end up running into 1,000 people you haven’t seen in ever, so —
[Jill Zarin]
8:01: Brad, you had quite a —
[Brad Boles]
8:04: You know what, I’ll show you. I actually have beautiful photographs. But more importantly —
8:07: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
[Sharon Haver]
8:09: Jill, I can really spill the beans on that one.
[Brad Boles]
8:12: I was —
[Sharon Haver]
8:14: Wait, wait, wait. Do you notice how Brad is trying to cut me off?
[Jill Zarin]
8:18: [INAUDIBLE] wig?
[Brad Boles] 8:20: Oh yeah, I had a lot of them. I’ll show you the photos, I was a real character. But speaking of really important characters, I want to talk about —
[Sharon Haver] 8:27: Wait, wait, wait. Brad, slow down. The one thing I want to say is, and through all of this — this goes back to Jill’s point — through all of that Brad and I were very close. We ended up sort of losing touch at a certain point, because he was working and traveling a lot and he wasn’t in New York. And then I ended up eventually meeting my husband and getting married. You just kind of lose touch with certain friends, and not because it’s on purpose. It’s just kind of the way the tide goes. And now we’re friends again, and that’s exactly what Jill was saying.
[Brad Boles] 9:00: Well, it’s interesting. I love a great friendship where you can not see each other for four or five years, and when you see each other you can pick up right where you left off.
[Sharon Haver] 9:08: Exactly.
[Brad Boles] 9:09: Now, let’s talk about my favorite character in Jill’s life. This is somebody that’s incredibly special to me that I love. And I want to ask you Jill, Aunt Cookie. Now I love her, she’s one of the most amazing people on the planet. Why was she such a defining marker in your life?
[Jill Zarin] 9:28: Aunt Cookie’s just always been there for everything, every occasion — good, bad, indifferent. My Aunt Cookie has never forgotten a birthday, an anniversary.
[Sharon Haver] 9:39: Wow.
[Jill Zarin] 9:39: She is the most thoughtful person — I’m not kidding. Every year, every birthday I get a card. Every year, every anniversary I get a card. Bobby now is part of the family, he does. Allyson does. And she calls. I can always count to the day — whatever — 6 o’clock in the morning always wakes us up. We’re like — “Uh oh, better not go to sleep tonight. Aunt Cookie’s calling at 6:00 in the morning.” If she didn’t call, I don’t even know what I would do. And unfortunately my Aunt Cookie isn’t feeling well right now, so I just hope everything is OK with her. She’s gone to the doctor —
[Brad Boles] 10:08: Aww. Well we love her. And she is —
[Jill Zarin] 10:12: Doctor Haber.
[Brad Boles] 10:13: You know what I love about Aunt Cookie, she always has only nice things to say about people. And she is always in a great mood. She’s just the cutest thing ever.
10:24: Sharon, I know you wanted to talk to Jill about if love is better the second time around.
[Sharon Haver] 10:29: Yeah, so what is that? This is my first marriage, it’s my husband’s second. And obviously I hope for him it’s better the second time around. And Brad was telling me a bit about you — I hope, I mean I’ve lasted a lot longer — about you and Bobby. So what do you think about that? Is the second time better because it’s a learning experience, because you’re a little older or a little wiser? What’s your take on all of that?
[Jill Zarin] 10:53: I think second time around for me was better, obviously. But it isn’t for everybody. You hope it is.
11:00: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
[Brad Boles] 11:02: Do you think most women could be as lucky as you, though? Because I’m a witness to it, you and Bobby and I have traveled the world together. He is the most amazing man in the world [INAUDIBLE].
[Jill Zarin] 11:15: I’m losing you. Hello?
[Sharon Haver] 11:17: Brad, you’re breaking up.
[Brad Boles] 11:20: Bobby’s always there for you. And it’s true, it’s not just what people see on television. I’m a witness to it all the time. You hang out with probably one of the most amazing cats in the world.
[Jill Zarin] 11:33: I know. Shh, don’t tell anybody. Stop.
11:35: [LAUGHTER]
[Sharon Haver] 11:38: So Jill, what now —
[Jill Zarin] 11:40: And Bobby’s so cute because he really is so naive about like Facebook, Twitter, and social media. He doesn’t twitter —
[Sharon Haver] 11:46: But that’s good, isn’t it?
[Jill Zarin] 11:46: — and he has a facebook. Well, he said to me last week. He says — “Do you think I should be twittering?” And I said — “Are you’re kidding me? What are you going to change now? Not for your life.”
11:56: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
11:58: Because it’s not who he is. But he does have a Facebook page. He randomly checks it, like once every six or eight weeks. All love, all support, and lots of hot women who send him their websites.
[Brad Boles] 12:10: Oh, I know. I’ve been there. We go out to parties.
[Jill Zarin] 12:13: Oh yeah, and he’ll be very cute with me. He’ll be like — “You know, this lady told me that she’s getting divorced and she needs advice.” I’m like — “Bobby, let her go to a therapist. She doesn’t need my husband. Thank you very much.”
[Brad Boles] 12:26: Now I’ve got a question here [INAUDIBLE].
[Sharon Haver] 12:31: Brad, we’re losing you.
[Jill Zarin] 12:33: Brad, where are you? Are you in the car?
[Brad Boles] 12:35: No, I’m in the Hamptons. You know my boy [INAUDIBLE].
[Sharon Haver] 12:40: We’re losing you. Are you moving?
[Brad Boles] 12:42: No, I’m not. [INAUDIBLE] Hello?
[Sharon Haver] 12:45: Go to a window.
12:46: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
[Jill Zarin] 12:51: He can’t sit still.
[Sharon Haver] 12:52: And he can’t stop over-talking.
[Brad Boles] 12:54: Hold on. So you know my boy Rob Siegel, who loves you Jill, and he was going to come on the line today but he’s working right now. And he has a question for you. It says — “Jill, what can a 30-something Jewish guy learn from your book? And more importantly, what can his 70 year old Jewish mother learn from it, or is it too late for her?
[Jill Zarin] 13:15: Is she single? Sorry, I’m shoving food down my throat. Is she single?
[Brad Boles] 13:19: I don’t know, I don’t think she’s single.
[Jill Zarin] 13:24: I think that really for her the book would be more humor, because I think she’s certainly experienced a lot of what we talk about in the book — about marriage, about relationships, about dating. It’s almost like a [INAUDIBLE] because a lot of this stuff, it’s not brain surgery. A lot of it’s very common sense, you know that Brad. The book is very common sense, but about the things that you may have forgotten. So I think that as his mother is going to advise him and any other children or grandchildren that she has, it’ll give her some tools to give advice. So she’ll have the list on what to look for in a husband — she’ll have the list — and what not to. Some of them she’ll know automatically, and some of the list will be like — “Oh, I didn’t think of that one. That’s a good one, too.” So she’ll have a list available to give her own advice. For her it would be like a book for her to be prepared to give advice, to remind her of all the things I’m sure she knows.
14:15: Now for Rob, on the other hand, who’s single and very handsome I think there’s a lot he could get out of the book actually. Not just so much about the dating, which is important, but marriage. Five minutes of understanding we talk about. We think it’s really important for you to have this kind of secret rule that if either one of you are really upset with each other, or if you’re not talking or having a fight or about to have a fight, you give yourself a timeout and go — “I need five minutes of understanding. Put the weapons down, we have to talk.”
14:43: That’s one, and then there’s a lot more than that. But also on parenting. Because he will get married, hopefully, and he’ll have children. And we have the most amazing tips on parenting. Things —
[Brad Boles] 14:53: Yes, that’s true.
[Jill Zarin] 14:54: — which my mother taught me and did with me, and I do with Allyson — although not always successfully, because she does throw me out. But to sit on the bed and try to talk to your children, especially when they’re young, and not get up when they don’t want you there. And to just sit, eavesdrop, and listen. And all the things that I think made Lisa and who I am today were because of my mother and my Aunt Cookie.
[Brad Boles] 15:17: You know, that’s very true. The whole relationship section of the book is so amazing to me. That’s the biggest comments that I’ve gotten when I sent the book out to my friends, was what solid advice it was and how it translates across the board for anybody.
15:30: But my question to you is, what is your — the listeners — what is your– back in the day when you were dating, what was your biggest dating nightmare?
[Jill Zarin] 15:42: Oh. Dating nightmare? You know, it’s so funny because I thought I dated too much. Like we’re the same age, we grew up very fast. You were Boy George at 13 and moved out of your house — or 14 — but I also —
[Sharon Haver] 16:01: Hopefully you weren’t.
[Jill Zarin] 16:03: No, but I was bad. I was bad.
[Sharon Haver] 16:06: [UNINTELLIGIBLE]
[Jill Zarin] 16:07: I was lying to my parents and saying I’m going to my friend’s to study, and I would be going to 147 or Cartoon’s, these local discos in town, with boys way too old for me to be with. And dated dated dated from the age of, let’s say, 15 to 21, that by the time I hit 21 I’m like — “OK, I’ve dated enough. I want to get married.” And that was my mistake, is that I got married too young. I picked a great guy, I got the right guy. The problem was I wasn’t really in love with him passionately, I was really marrying my best friend. And I was settling because I was scared to be alone. I don’t know why I had this fear that — “Oh my god, I’m 22. I have to get married, I’m done.” And today it’s very different. I wouldn’t encourage Allyson to settle down so young.
[Brad Boles] 16:52: You know it’s interesting Sharon, you had also asked me earlier that you were fascinated by the dynamic of Jill and Ally’s relationship, obviously since you have [INAUDIBLE] yourself.
[Sharon Haver] 17:03: Yeah. Backtracking a little bit. So many women out there have — it’s not easy finding a boyfriend, a fiance, a husband, a mate of any kind. And one of the things that you touch upon, which is one of my favorite Jewish words, is you talk about matchmaking. And matchmaking in Yiddish is called the shidduch, which is not with two t’s it’s with two d’s. To help everyone else, it’s an s, h, i, d, d, u, c, h. So in making a shidduch, you’re supposedly — I never know, what is the person who does it called, the queen of the shidduch? What do you think it takes to match — if you have a friend, and you think they’d be great with another friend. Or how do you kind of like network your friends into romance?
[Jill Zarin] 17:50: Well, I do it all the time. In fact, I just met another one with Brad. Remember the other night, that handsome man at your friend’s house?
[Brad Boles] 17:57: Jill’s the most amazing connector, she’s off the charts.
[Jill Zarin] 18:00: No, but I’ve been thinking about who I could fix him up with, and I really should go through my rolodex. But you know, it’s just luck. But the best relationships really are through fix-ups, I think.
18:09: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
18:10: After college, because you know it’s hard when you’re working in a job to meet people. What are you going to do, go to a bar that’s noisy or a disco that’s noisy? How do you meet someone? You have to rely on your network.
[Sharon Haver] 18:22: And what do you think of people who do online dating now? I know so many people who do it, I’m like thank God I’m not single now —
[Jill Zarin] 18:28: I would do it.
[Sharon Haver] 18:28: — because I think I’d freaked out by the whole idea. You do? I think I’d be freaked out by it.
[Jill Zarin] 18:31: It’s a total candy store. I think I’d have a great time at it actually. My stepson met his wife on JDate. And my niece, who just by the way is pregnant with twins — my cousin, my first cousin, she met her husband on JDate. JDate’s an interesting [INAUDIBLE]. They’re a great matchmaking site.
[Brad Boles] 18:50: But you even say in the book, you say cast the net as wide as possible. That’s what you’re saying basically, cast the net wide.
[Jill Zarin] 18:58: Everything. Everything and everyone. If I were single — God forbid, pooh pooh a million times — I’d be asking every single person that I know to fix me up. And I wouldn’t stop — like I’d call again and again. So like probably once a week I would be calling you and Brad up. Because you know what happens, you forget. Because yes, today I’m thinking about that person but tomorrow I may not be. And tomorrow I might meet the girl that would have been perfect for him, and I forgot about him. So you want to keep on the top of people’s minds that you’re looking, you’re looking, you’re looking. And people will work for you, they want to. It’s in people’s nature to help people.
[Brad Boles] 19:31: It’s very true.
[Sharon Haver] 19:31: No, I agree.
[Jill Zarin] 19:32: I think people are generally good-natured and want to help other people.
[Sharon Haver] 19:37: The other thing people have to do is that — I know a lot of my single girlfriends — they kind of have, you know, there’s the guys you have fun with, and there’s the guys. It’s like you have friends for different purposes, well you kind of have relationships for different purposes too, I believe. And I think that they need to somehow get in their head — “Well I want to get married, and not see some guy who maybe is fun to go to the movies with, or fun to go away with for the weekend. And then sort of plant the idea that he’s the one on him.” And just let relationships sort of open up. And when you are looking for the one, just be receptive to whatever is out there rather than just putting that on some guy and saying he has to be that guy. And then you’re disappointed and it’s over. So I think people just need to open up their minds and understand that people come in and out of your life for different reasons.
[Jill Zarin] 20:26: Right.
[Brad Boles] 20:26: That’s very true. One of the things that I want to touch on, though, which is very, very interesting is that long before Bobby came along — and a lot of people don’t know this, because they see the show and see like [INAUDIBLE] and the arguments. But one of the most amazing things that people don’t know about Jill — and I’m a witness to it because we’ve been in business together, and we’ve done amazing things — is Jill had the most amazing, successful career before Bobby. She’s so brilliant when she comes up with ideas and concepts. I know that you’ve developed an amazing bedding line that’s coming out in the fall. I’ve seen it, it’s absolutely gorgeous. How did that happen?
[Jill Zarin] 21:06: Well, it’s a dream of mine to design my own line — always. I love fabric, that’s one of the reasons I went to work for Bobby. Because you know me, how frustrated I am. I’m not a decorator, and I never put myself out there as one, but I do love to try. And I love to experiment with fabrics, and I love to make bedding. Bedding is my passion. And so when the show came on air, it gave me a platform of people who think that they like how I dress, or they like my taste. So I was able to link up with an amazing company — manufacturer — to actually make the bedding for us. And we’re really excited that I designed this line.
21:43: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
21:45: To me, it’s always about the pillows. You and I know that, right? And the prices. If I made these in the store using the fabrics in the warehouse — and one particular bed I’m thinking that I made — for the math, it would cost like $3,000.
[Brad Boles] 21:58: Oh, by the way. Are you and Sharon —
[Jill Zarin] 22:00: It’s only $200 for the entire set. It’s amazing.
[Brad Boles] 22:04: It is, the price points are amazing. But you and Sharon share a common link. You know, she buys all of her fabrics in your store, in Zarin Fabrics.
[Sharon Haver] 22:11: Jill, you don’t realize that I sleep with you and Bobby every night.
[Jill Zarin] 22:15: Ooh.
22:17: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
22:19: By the way, when that transcriber transcribes that sentence, that will be on the head of one of these huge websites.
22:27: [INTERPOSING VOICES]
[Sharon Haver] 22:29: Let me explain, because we have one of those —
22:32: [LAUGHTER]
22:32: Let me explain. We have one of those Ligne —
[Jill Zarin] 22:34: Hold on. What was your last name again?
22:37: [LAUGHTER]
22:38: Is it [UNINTELLIGIBLE]
[Sharon Haver] 22:41: No, but anyway let me explain. We have one of those Ligne Roset beds. It has like a rim around it, and it was ultrasuede. And when my son was little, God knows, it ended up getting formula and it ended up getting a little fakakt, as they say. So we needed to redo the whole —
[Jill Zarin] 22:58: It must have had a little schmutz on it.
[Sharon Haver] 22:59: It was very schmutz. But schmutz is removable dirt, this was kind of embedded. It was like [UNINTELLIGIBLE] schmutz. So we ended up bringing the bed to Zarin, and you and Zarin Fabrics redid the ultrasuede on it and on all the upholstery.
[Brad Boles] 23:14: It’s gorgeous.
[Sharon Haver] 23:14: And did a lovely job.
[Jill Zarin] 23:17: We’re definitely a friend to many New Yorkers, and now worldwide the show has really helped Zarin get on a worldwide platform. And we ship all over the world, and we have the best prices imaginable — I think you know that. We used to call that the store, like Zarin Fabric Warehouse, and that gave you the image that it was at a discount. And then we changed it. When the economy was really good, we tried to go a little upscale and called it Zarin Fabrics and Home Furnishings. And I go back and forth with Bobby, should we go back to Zarin Fabric Warehouse? Because the truth is, we’re not even getting the credit for giving the prices that we get. People are surprised, people don’t expect it. So they’ll come to us because of the show, let’s say for example, and they’ll source — I’ll just use the most extreme — silk mohair fabric, and that’s $300 a yard — if not more, right — at the D&D Building, Brad?
[Brad Boles] 24:10: Yeah, absolutely.
[Jill Zarin] 24:10: You know what I’m talking about, I have a —
[Brad Boles] 24:13: Yeah, it’s from Belgium. It’s velvet mohair.
[Jill Zarin] 24:17: Velvet mohair. We sell it for between $65 and $90 a yard. Now mind you —
[Sharon Haver] 24:24: And Jill, you know why I did get my bed reupholstered at Zarin. It’s because, yes, my husband said he doesn’t think I’d ever buy anything retail in my life. Because I shopped around to get that kind of new buck ultrasuede at the best price and the same quality. And you were top on the list.
[Jill Zarin] 24:41: Right, I’m not lying that our price —
[Sharon Haver] 24:42: It wasn’t by accident. No, no, no, no, no.
[Jill Zarin] 24:44: I feel like that guy on TV — our prices are insane! What was he called? Crazy Eddie.
[Sharon Haver] 24:49: The Crazy Eddie of fabric.
[Jill Zarin] 24:52: Yeah, I’m crazy Jill — our prices are insane!
[Brad Boles] 24:56: So talking about Zarin Fabrics, which is located on the Lower East Side by the way, for any of you listeners. It’s amazing. One of the interesting things that happened is that in all of my time being there, and working with the decorating business with Jill out of Zarin, is there happens to be a tour bus stoplight in front of her store. And the first season that it aired, all of a sudden I would be in the store — and Jill comes in and out because she’s very, very busy, and so she’ll come in a couple days a week — but I would be in the store, and all of these fans would get off the bus and come into the store in groups of 20, 30, and 40 women. And my question to you Jill is, how has the show impacted your marriage?
[Jill Zarin] 25:40: It hasn’t in a negative way at all. I think my marriage is as good as it was before the show started. I think it put a lot of stress on me, and therefore that’s sort of a byproduct on Bobby, which is one of the reasons why I may not want to come back next season. I’m not really sure what I’m doing yet, because it’s really been very stressful for me. And that falls on my wonderful husband, because he has to deal with me. But we’re great. We have a great — I’m very lucky.
[Brad Boles] 26:08: Yeah, you are very lucky.
[Jill Zarin] 26:09: And I’m not looking to jeopardize it.
[Brad Boles] 26:10: Well, and also I think — and Sharon knows this — it was extremely difficult for me to watch Season 3, because it was just far too painful because I know you, and I know what was going down is not the person that I know or any of us know. The cameras can do that, editing can do that. You guys have no control over the way anything is edited. And I think that —
[Sharon Haver] 26:33: But that’s an interesting point. We have three minutes left. So Jill, why don’t we ask you whatever you want to talk about in the final three minutes here. And we should do this again soon. And if you want to talk about the show and what happened, or whatever you — it’s open call for Jill.
[Jill Zarin] 26:51: I just want to say thank you to all the fans, and Twitter followers and Facebook fans who twitter me, email me, and contact me all the time. I try to reach back to as many as I can. And I love you for it. If it wasn’t for the show I wouldn’t have met so many amazing people. And I really love my life. And it’s really thanks to Bravo for giving me this amazing platform. You know it’s a one in a million. It’s the lottery. Me being on television. Getting on television, being on a successful show, going into syndication, being in 60 countries. I couldn’t thank Bravo enough for what they’ve done for me. But you know, sometimes the party’s over. And I’m not sure if I’m ready to go back into it again. So we’ll see. I have a lot of great projects on. I’m not going away, I have a lot of great projects that I’m working on.
[Brad Boles] 27:38: Oh, absolutely. Absolutely you do.
27:40: Well, I think that was a great conversation with Jill Zarin. And you can also check out her website, jillzarin.com. It’s absolutely amazing. And you do update that all the time, and there’s lots of great photos. It’s actually an amazing, amazing website. It was beautifully designed.
[Jill Zarin] 27:58: Yeah, I have to update it. But yeah, I’m always loading it with new stuff. So check it out.
[Brad Boles] 28:02: There’s great gossip on there, just about friends and things.
[Jill Zarin] 28:03: Thanks honey.
[Brad Boles] 28:04: All right darling. Thanks, and I will see you soon.
[Sharon Haver] 28:08: And thank you so much Jill. And whenever you want to come back, you’re always welcome.
[Jill Zarin] 28:13: You’re a doll.
[Sharon Haver] 28:14: Yeah, so are you.
[Jill Zarin] 28:14: Thank you. OK.
[Sharon Haver] 28:16: Thank you, we love you.
[Jill Zarin] 28:17: Bye, have a great weekend.
[Brad Boles] 28:19: Bye.
[Sharon Haver] 28:20: Bye.
28:20: Brad, are you still on the line?
[Brad Boles] 28:22: I’m still on the line.
[Sharon Haver] 28:23: OK. So we have a few more minutes now. And tell me — we’ve wrapped it up — if there’s anything you think the viewers need to know about anything else this week. Or how would you like to wrap it up?
[Brad Boles] 28:38: Check out my column this week on FocusOnStyle.com The last weekend was — Yep, that was a whirlwind. And I have this weekend promised it to even be more of a whirlwind. It is jam-packed. We have the Mercedes Polo out here this weekend, so it’s going to be celebrity packed. And next weekend on July 31, your very own Sharon Haver will be joining me in the Hamptons for Super Saturday. And we’re actually going to film that, and that’s going to end up going on FocusOnStyle.com the following week.
[Sharon Haver] 29:11: Brad is dragging me out, kicking and screaming, next weekend to the Hamptons if it kills me.
[Brad Boles] 29:16: You told me you like a bargain, and it’s for a good cause.
[Sharon Haver] 29:19: I do like a bargain, I do. But it’s a week before I leave for Jackson Hole. So it’s like the craziest — you know.
[Brad Boles] 29:26: Well, you know what?
[Sharon Haver] 29:27: What?
[Brad Boles] 29:28: You’re probably going to end up running into 1,000 people you haven’t seen in ever, so —
[Sharon Haver] 29:31: I know. Maybe that’s why I won’t go.
[Brad Boles] 29:34: And it’ll probably be 110 in the shade, and you’ll be wearing black.
[Sharon Haver] 29:37: So it’ll be schvitz city out in the Hamptons, instead of schvitz city in New York.
29:43: But anyway. On that note we’d like to thank everyone for joining us today, and thank our special guest Jill Zarin. And hope you all come back.
[Brad Boles] 29:53: Absolutely.
[Sharon Haver] 29:54: And do go to www.FocusOnStyle.com, and you’ll get all our great fabulous fashion, beauty, and style tips. And all the gossip that you can possibly fit from Brad Boles. So thank you all.
[Brad Boles] 30:10: And I want to just give a shout out to my boy Rob Siegel, my metrosexual, he gives us our metrosexual tips on my column. He couldn’t be with us today, but check it out. He has great advice for all you guys out there.
[Sharon Haver] 30:22: OK. Bye Rob, we love you too. And we’ll talk to you soon. Take care. Bye, bye.
[Brad Boles] 30:28: Bye everyone.
[End of Transcript] 29:31: I know. Maybe that’s why I won’t go.
[Brad Boles] 29:34: And it’ll probably be 110 in the shade, and you’ll be wearing black.
[Sharon Haver] 29:37: So it’ll be schvitz city out in the Hamptons, instead of schvitz city in New York.
29:43: But anyway. On that note we’d like to thank everyone for joining us today, and thank our special guest Jill Zarin. And hope you all come back.
[Brad Boles] 29:53: Absolutely.
[Sharon Haver] 29:54: And do go to www.FocusOnStyle.com, and you’ll get all our great fabulous fashion, beauty, and style tips. And all the gossip that you can possibly fit from Brad Boles. So thank you all.
[Brad Boles] 30:10: And I want to just give a shout out to my boy Rob Siegel, my metrosexual, he gives us our metrosexual tips on my column. He couldn’t be with us today, but check it out. He has great advice for all you guys out there.
[Sharon Haver] 30:22: OK. Bye Rob, we love you too. And we’ll talk to you soon. Take care. Bye, bye.
[Brad Boles] 30:28: Bye everyone.
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